For the past several years I have been living with an advanced thyroid disease courtesy of Chernobyl.All this time I had to live AND work with violent side effects of the disease. It took time, but I have learned how to not let it stop me. I feel the same way about the subject of rejection: it makes you sick but you have to push pass the setback.
Last week, while attending one of the fashion parties, I have found myself in a funny, somewhat uncomfortable, situation: while one colleague of mine, whom I have met before, in a very obvious manner pretended not to notice me, the other colleague of mine, whom I never met before, but who, I am certain, knew my name, snapped my picture with her phone. She was standing only couple of steps away but thought I would not notice. She did not bother to introduce herself or ask for permission to take a picture. The entire display I thought was rather amusing.Really!? Aren't we a little bit too old for that? Apparently, High School never ends for some.
This, of course, is not what I call rejection, this is more of other people insecurities. Rejection to me is always a life changing occurrence.I mean the rejection in professional life. The one that lives you absolutely gutted, destroyed and broken in pieces. The one that is delivered like a blow to the very core of your professional ego. With in the past year I have managed to have several of them.
The truth is I always take it very personally unable to pretend that it doesn't matter or recover fast enough. Rejection takes you over, much like an illness and there are many dangers that come with it. One of the most obvious is a danger of loosing hope and giving up on your dream and your vision. Nothing is worse.
If you happen to go through something like this at this very moment, I have few words of advice for you: breathe! Keep your eyes and mind on the original reason as to why you decided to choose this particular line of work. To me it is love for the subject of Millinery Art. Complete, consuming passion for the very DNA of my craft. I believe that passion like this sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible. + a great glass of wine and a cigar always help too. :-)
In a moment of desperation I have turned to the comfort of great minds. Here is my top favorite quote on the subject by Theodore Roosevelt: - "Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure... than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat. "
"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts" - Winston Churchill.
Also one of my top favorites: "Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. " - Winston Churchill.
Going through any defeat is a very personal journey, but if you would like to share how you are dealing with it I will be very grateful.
Special Thank You to the wonderful Fluff Chance of The Emperor's Old Clothes for holding me together and not letting me fall apart completely.
Credits: Editorial Vogue US, Chanel Beauty, Editorial fr Hats by S.Jones and P.Atkinson.